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Hi. Well....I am immensively struggling in real life, currently....I am sorry that I do not have any better news, but I do sincerely hope you are enjoying your spare-time.
oh shoot, i'm sorry. you can always just send me a telegram privately if you wanna talk about it. i hope things get better for you 🌦️🌈
Second what 
Vabistan offered. If you ever need to chat, feel free to telegram me, always happy to lend an ear.
Diplomatinis and Vabistan
Thank you, you two kind spirits! I will come back to you when....well, I know how things developed.
Fair enough. I know what it is like to be in the midst of it and not certain the what of it. Take care of yourself, and simply do what you know to be good, as you know it at the time.
And Vabistan, I forgot to ask, how goes Spring Break? Are you taking a holiday away and doing Spring Break things, or keeping it more low-key?
thank you for asking ^^ and sorry for responding late, i just came back from portland. im visiting all the colleges i got accepted into ! i've visited 2/4, and the other two are nearby so now i won't be doing any proper traveling. i dont really like traveling, anyway. ill be taking it easy and working on essays/schoolwork for the rest of break.
No apologies necessary. Good to hear you are visiting the colleges you are considering. Are you happy with what you have seen so far?
Why don't you like travelling? And are we talking car travel, air travel, bus travel, or some combination?
ahh, most travel but especially flight. americans really only travel via personal automobile or plane. public transportation here, in most areas (even metropolitan), suck. i think my issue is that there's too much out of my control. but i've also only ever traveled with... let's say, unpleasant family members, and this may be skewing my perception of travel. i'd love to solo travel when i'm older, but i'll probably stick to america and maybe canada.
I am sorry to hear that. I certainly understand unpleasant family members - after my nonna got dementia, I got to watch my dad's family fall apart, to the point that he does not speak to his siblings anymore and I do not speak to some of my cousins - not because I have anything against them, but because they have something against my family. Our nonna lived on our property with us, and it was disappointing seeing my dad's siblings unable to put in the barest of efforts to help their mum, and it was somewhat disappointing that my cousins did similar, though I will at least admit that many of us were trying to start our lives as young adults, so it is at least forgivable.
Public transportation being useless is, unfortunately, by design. It was a way of forcing people to have to buy cars - places like LA and New York had fantastic public transport systems - most major cities in the US, UK, and other English speaking developed countries did, until governments were convinced to sell them off whilst at the same time extolling the "benefits" of the suburbs, to force car ownership.
I highly recommend solo travel. I did that when I was 22 - went to Europe by myself, and spent a lot of time with my Italian relatives and friends that I had made along the way - that said, I have an EU passport, so it was very easy for me!
there's no need for you to be sorry. if anything, i'm sorry about your grandmother and your father's family. that must've been really rough for both you and your grandmother.
yes, yipee post-ww2 prosperity! lol. i live near DC, where the public transportation is actually pretty good, if not one of the best in america, but it still could always be better.
that sounds super nice! i'm glad you were able to enjoy europe. i don't have a european passport, but i did go to spain this summer. i don't mean to make any assumptions, but as someone who's arab-looking, europe wasn't/probably wouldn't be super enjoyable for me. for as much hate as america gets for being "regressive" for a wealthy nation, it is quite ahead of most if not all other countries in terms of its citizens caring and desiring racial justice and equality. a lot of europeans are just straightforwardly racist from my experience (though not all, of course). even in spain, i didn't appreciate the staring or the asking of where i was "really" from. that never happens in america, which is why i'd prefer to stick to america and canada--their cultures are pretty similar. i might travel around the US, though. i'd love to go to philadelphia alone ^^
That is kind - we have all managed to get through it. Unfortunate as her end was, and as difficult as it is to say, her passing made it much easier for my dad to cut those ties and reduce the amount of pressure and stress on his life and, in turn, our family's life.
Always - the problem is that there are always vested interests that do not want things to get better because it will cut into their profit margins. It also does not help that the world over we have elected representatives who do not understand what it means to govern. They are more interested in being in power than in governance, which often means making hard decisions not because they are popular, but because they are right. The US is not the only government at fault in that regard, even in Australia, we have that same issue.
Oh, they most certainly are. You do not have to tell me. There are people all over Europe who decry racism but then who have no problem discriminating against the Traveller and Romani people. Not to mention the upswing in popularity of far-right governments (Giorgia Meloni in Italy, for example) as a backlash to migration and asylum seekers from Middle Eastern countries (or even the UK's Brexit vote that was even more explicit in their racism as they were happy to do the whole "go back to where you came from" against even Polish migrants and workers). There's a wonderful idea - the narcissim of small differences - that I think best encapsulates what happens in Europe specifically. It is the idea that the more two communities share in common, the greater their hatred towards each other because of the minor differences. I think the EU managed to make a stronger European identity that meant that those who did not consider themselves European (like the UK) meant that there was that hatred borne out of those minor differences. As well, I think the collective EU identity has also caused the position of the minr differences to shift focus to nations and peoples that border Europe (In particular, Western, Southern, and Central Europe).
That said, if you are thinking of travelling, once you become more comfortable, I do highly recommend SE Asia - there are a lot of beautiful places there to explore and appreciate.
im glad you and your dad have been able to heal ^^
😓 definitely. it's just really unfortunate. i hate how car-dependent america is--i hate driving in the first place, lol. there's a plaza that's maybe 0.1-0.2 miles from my house (like, right in front of my neighborhood) that i have to drive to (taking 0.3-0.5 miles), just because there isn't a walk path straight there. sigh.
right. it's definitely different there. nothing against europeans, though. it's just not for me (at least, western europe isn't).
okay, i'll keep that in mind. it's also a matter of having the money for that. 😅 im about to become a broke college student, so i probably won't have much of a disposable income, anyhow, but thank you ^^
Thank you - and if you ever want to talk about your own difficulties, I am just a telegram away.
Yep - deliberate efforts to make society car dependent. We get that here to where I am. My city, Adelaide, keeps expanding outwards - it is, in terms of land size, over 4 times larger than New York City, despite having a population that is almost 6 times smaller. Everyone wants a backyard, suburban lifestyle, and so we just pave over farmland to get it. No one wants to live in a propery city, though we could easily fit our entire population into a quarter of the landmass. And it means everyone needs a car, and that public transport is terrible. If you want to go from the northern suburbs to the north east, you cannot do that via public transport directly. You need to go into town to get a bus to take you back out of town.
Don't worry, you have your whole life ahead of you. I did not travel until after I finished uni (the first time) and had been working for a couple of years. Just focus on making certain you enjoy your college years.
thank you, ❤️ will do
omg, adelaide is so gorgeous. i'm jealous. but right, that desire for that "backyard" lifestyle is definitely the case in all suburbs surrounding large cities in the US. you'd think that housing so close to the city would be compact, but nope. also, minimum lot size requirements in the US make this so much more complicated. zoning laws and parking laws ruin everything within cities, too. we could fit so many apartment complexes/homes into the huge chunks of land we dedicate for parking lots. i'm sorry the transport is inconvenient there, too.
will do, thank you ^^ i'm planning on going to law school right after getting my sociology degree,, but we'll see !
I am sorry folks, I have been gone for several days and gotta catch up alot it seems. Seems I missed quite alot.
EDIT #1: 
Saganye, you do have my condolences about the cascading tragedy in your family. I witnessed many deaths of family members and the structure of family being torn apart myself....it is not easy, but I am confident that you managed to form something positive out of these negative experiences. (possibly without even knowing)
EDIT #2: About EU and common European identity: Well, for some reason, I moreso identify myself as European rather than as German.
it's totally okay to take a break; don't be sorry! and thank you for sharing.
omg we have a new person now it's not just two ppl
Saillske Saire Welcome in our small neighborhood!
hii! we aren't a large group, but we sure do talk a lot. welcome !
No need to apologise. I myself have been sick and not been able to form coherent sentences. And thank you for your comment, and I am sorry that you have witnessed the same.
Anyone want to contribute to my Wonder?
I have just found out, from your post, about Wonders. Are there any particular resources you need?
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